excitement and thrill of that initial spark of attraction that brings you and the object of your affection together.
As the song says, \"you might as well face it. You're addicted to love.\" That singer knew what he was talking about. Romantic love is as intoxicating and addictive as any drug. Once you're hooked, your chances of ever totally escaping its attraction are slim. The best you can probably hope for is that you will be an eternally recovering addict, eternally resisting the temptations of your drug of choice and wondering if sobriety is all it's cracked up to be.
It is important that partners set aside time for one another, and that they be in tune to one another's needs and feelings. One partner may begin to sense that the relationship is growing distant, or starting to stagnate, before the other does. Listening to each other, and being willing to take steps to return some of the initial excitement and passion you had for one another, will help keep the relationship strong, and bring the two of you closer together.
The problem that occurs in many relationships today is that people have false expectations. Many couples think that the way they feel in the beginning of the
relationship will last forever, and ever. That's not the way real love works. Real love has it's ups and it's downs, it has it's times of passion and it's time of ho-hum. The maturity level of the couple, as they enter into the relationship, will dictate how well they cope with the \"down\" times.
We often seek to be loved and to love, it is natural for us to seek out love because of the wonderful ability God has given us to share and receive love. We are often blinded by our wants and needs for love, mistaking sinful lust for the place of love. Our standers have lowered and seem too continual to lower by the decade. It is now frequent and acceptable for a man and a woman to met, have a fist date, and have sex; the act of sex is a large part of love.
But I do believe that real love doesn't fade. Sometimes we might end up taking the people that we love for granted though. And that can give an illusion of fading. But when a crisis hits or those people need us then we are there in full force and the love has not faded.
Everyone becomes so engrossed in the other aspects of their lives; their jobs, children, friends that all of a sudden they realize that they completely forgot to concentrate on the relationship with their significant other. They take it for granted believing that it will always be there.
People need to understand that through the stages of their relationship, the love is going to change. It's going to be a little less, a little more, but it will never be
consistently one level. Either way, a relationship takes work. Keeping that spark up with someone takes effort and it will never continue to be great or get better if you do not nurture it. Both parties need to be able to communicate with each other. If both people aren't willing to keep their love and relationship a priority no matter what else is going on around them, the love is bound to fade eventually.
I don't think that love ever fades or ends but rather it changes. Years ago I believed there was only one kind of love because I was raised in children homes which had no love to offer. So I automatically believed the only type of love in this world was the love of self.
As I grew older I soon learned there were different type of loves but not a love that lovers say they have when in love. Now even older than then I know for a fact there is even a love that is real, not the kind that changes after the infatuation has dispersed but a true love; A love that is considered as being in love and I believe as well it can happen with the sight of eyes gazing into each other. This type of love never fades but the others fade because people makes changes in their lives constantly. Love can fade because one has grown tired of the old life and is trying to find a new life, while the other is still content in their old ways. Love can fade from not being with each other enough as with being with each other too much. There are many different reasons as to why love fades but I would guess from my own experiences the main reason why love fades would be for the simple reason we are human and always searching for the greener pasture.
Even though we search for greener pastures, if we have a true love or are in love, the greener pastures will be sought for together and this love will never fade. How do we know for a fact that true love never fades? Our Messiah has a true love for us and is a love that will never end, but our human love when not in true love will fade like the rose you had given your sweetheart when you first met them. If it is a true love you will know, for it is just something in you you will feel. So don't be discouraged if you have a love that faded or your mates love faded, they are process' we go through until we find our true love.
If you want to find the reason why love fades like grass, take a look into your own relationship and ask yourself three questions:
1. Is there any action towards this relationship, or is it based on nothing more than feeling?
2. Is this even love, or just a cop out for sex?
3. Am I making two mistakes at once by basing the relationship on feelings AND sex? Find your answers, and make your decision from there (and hope that it is a wise one all the same)!
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